Relationship Therapy for High Functioning Partners
You hold everything together in life — but your relationship still feels confusing, tense, or fragile. Arguments escalate quickly. Silence feels unbearable. You want closeness, but nothing seems to work.
Sound Familiar?
You may be the one who:
• brings up the relationship over and over because it matters to you
• feels anxious when your partner won’t talk about problems
• replays conversations for hours trying to fix things
• wonders if you’re asking for “too much”
• swings between hope and exhaustion
Your relationship struggles may feel like a secret — especially when everything else in your life looks successful.
Meet Dr. Brittany Sievers, Licensed Psychologist
Most people who come to see me care deeply about their relationship and are genuinely trying. From the outside, their lives often look put-together and capable. But inside the relationship, conflict escalates faster than expected, repair takes longer than it should, and the same misunderstandings keep taking over.
You may be working hard to fix the relationship while quietly wondering if you are the real problem — and other times you start to wonder if you are carrying more emotional responsibility than you should. Something isn’t working, and despite your best efforts, you can’t figure it out.
Because others see you as capable and put-together, it can feel especially hard to talk about what’s not working in your relationship — or to let anyone see how much it’s actually hurting.
In our work together, I don’t just listen to what goes wrong between you — I pay close attention to how the pattern unfolds in real time, in our session. I track where conversations derail, where one of you feels alone or overwhelmed, and where the same reactions keep taking over despite good intentions.
I step in actively to slow the moment down, ask direct questions, and help you understand what’s happening underneath the conflict so you can respond to each other differently, not just argue more carefully.
We look at the emotional and relationship patterns shaping your reactions — including early relationship experiences and learned coping strategies — and work to interrupt the cycles that keep pulling you both off course, while strengthening the parts of your connection that are still very much alive. Many of the couples I work with didn't have great relationship examples growing up. If closeness felt unpredictable, conflict felt intense or ignored, or chaotic substance use or instability were part of the environment, it makes sense that relationship patterns today can feel confusing or overwhelming at times. These patterns are understandable, and they are changeable. Your relationship isn't doomed. When couples learn how to recognize the cycle they're caught in, and respond differently to the emotions underneath it, connection and trust can grow again in very real ways. Repair is possible.